When my spouse cheated, I dove head first into reconciliation. Therapists are by and large all in on victim blaming. Tracy and Sarah push back against the narrative that abused spouses caused their own abuse. They rightly put the agency in the hands of the bad actor. Tracy’s advice is spot on. This podcast is a breath of fresh air.

Tracy Shorn and her no nonsense viewpoint saved me from wallowing in self pity after my husband abruptly left me for his secret mistress after 27 years of marriage. In this podcast, she and Sarah tell their stories and interview both experts and fellow chumps (victims of cheaters) for confirmation of the idea that cheaters are responsible for their own actions and the best choice is to find your mightiness and move forward to a new life without the cheater. If you have been cheated on, this is the podcast for you!

Processing the fallout of cheating (infidelity is too nice a word) is a soul-crushing walk though hot coals to get to the peace on the other side. The peace on that other side is what Chump Lady calls Tuesday and is what truly makes the survivor mighty. If life "takes a village", then this is the village one needs after discovering that you have the misfortune of being linked for life with a cheater, especially if you have bred with them. With wit, wisdom and millions of stories to back them up, Tracy and Sarah offer up various podcasts and interviews to complement the Chump Lady website. It all helps to support anyone navigating this terrible process.

This is the only advice out there grounded in reality. Please listen if you have been cheated on.

Thank you for portraying cheating as it is and not trying to make excuses for bad character. Your book was amazing and so helpful to me in a time of need and your podcast has further helped me move forward.

It’s a club none of us want to be in, but yet here we are. The support from the podcast and Chump Nation has truly saved my life! Listening to these podcasts gets me through another week of realizing my FW is just that an FW and I am on this roller coast for life thanks to him. But thanks to Tracy and Sarah, I don’t have to ride alone! Thank you!!!

Not even sure how i found this but so thankful.

The hosts clearly don’t understand the work of Esther Perel. The way they bash her is childish. If they would actually pay attention, she doesn’t EVER STATE she condones infidelity. She works with couples who WANT TO, BY CHOICE, try and salvage their marriage. Just because they don’t agree with someone’s practice/work shouldn’t give them the right to be disrespectful. Disrespect and trash talk is forms of abuse too. Whatever happened to respecting other people’s opinions and work? They may trash talk my comment and that’s ok.

Such a great show! If you’ve found yourself in the hazy maze of the aftermath of discovering infidelity this podcast will help you find a healthy perspective. It might even make you laugh. Too soon? Tracy and company will help you get there. THIS is the healthy, life affirming, sensible point of view. I’m very happy to have found Tracy’s excellent website and now the podcast.

5 years post D day yesterday. Didn't realize it until today because it does get easier. In fact, life after a cheater becomes more beautiful, more colorful, and more calm than you can imagine if you're in the storm right now. It doesn't happen at once. It isn't linear. But it happens. And it happens because of podcasts and blogs like this one. Forever grateful I found this community that got me to the other side.

Finally someone delving into this type of abuse. This is for the forever hopeful victims. If only more family court professionals would take some time to understand this perspective. Love the way these podcasts are so positive. Forward facing so the traumatized can finally move on and reclaim their life. Thank you Tracy !

I dated a cheater (he wasn’t cheating with me), and it was a revelation into the world of someone who was so duplicitous. Tracy gets it. Love this podcast that calls out bad behavior for what it is.

I am so grateful to have found Chump Lady’s writing, and now to have this amazing podcast is such a gift! It’s uplifting, validating, and affirming. Listening to it helps me feel less alone, and armed with even more knowledge to heal from betrayal trauma.

Many of us have tried to fix a relationship with a cheater. And in order to do this most of the time we have to make ourselves small. The infidelity itself told us just where we stand in our spouses life and now in order to reconcile we have to swallow our hurt and become even smaller. Well that’s garbage. Infidelity changes you forever. It changes the relationship forever. The foundation of trust is gone. And chances of that coming back is very slim. We have to stop fooling ourselves into believing somehow we can “save our family” while being married to someone who only wants to please himself. Set yourself free from the real and imagined expectations of our family, friends, church. You too are mighty.

This is the podcast for you! Also recommend reading Tracey’s book and blog. Tracey’s wisdom helped save me and my kids lives. Literally! She has an enlightening and refreshing take on being a chump that helps us chumps to embrace the reality that has been dumped on us and empower us to take our lives back. This includes not just dealing with the cheating abusive significant other but dealing with therapist who insist that you are “part of the problem” when they know good and well that no one but the cheating/abusive spouse is the only one that can control their own actions, Switzerland friends/family, flying monkeys, narcissistic and highly toxic people, how to coparent with a highly toxic spouse, etc. I’m 10yrs out of an abusive marriage and 5yrs free from highly toxic people in all areas of my life. (The first 5yrs post divorce were spent jumping through hoops with people described above for the “good of the children” as the court and toxic therapist liked to put it. Let me be very clear, it wasn’t for the good of my children but for the good of their pocket books as I was constantly wrapped in judicial battles with my ex and they reaped the benefit of continuing the chaos instead of recognizing his abuse and forcing boundaries with him). Life is good now on the other side after I took Tracey’s advice.

I LIVE for podcasts. I’m very fussy and will dismiss podcasts that may mean well but just don’t deliver on listenable status. This one delivers! If you’ve been cheated on at anytime in your life (yes, it’s abuse. Not a “phase” that is normal and harmless ) this is for you!

The stories shared in the Tell Me How You are Mighty podcast have empowering messages, are inspiring and it really helps a chump get through some tough days. It’s nice knowing that you are not alone and are in good company. I can’t thank Tracy Schorn and Sarah Gorrell enough for having yet another platform for chumps to go to. If you haven’t read Tracy’s book ‘Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life’ yet- it’s a must-read for anyone who has been cheated on- whether you decide to stay or not. Also, check out her blog at chumplady dot com - and if you are asking yourself if I am paid to plug the above, no! I’m not! I just know what has helped me wade through emotions caused by infidelity and these are excellent resources. Cheating is trauma. At any rate, thank you mighty ladies once again for creating this podcast!! 👍👍🫶🏻🙌

This goes mostly for Tracy - how do you invite professionals onto your podcast for their opinion on topics then completely attack and negate them? I listened to one episode and will never tune in again. You treat your blog as if it’s the Bible when it very much pushes a one sided narrative that you think fits every infidelity case. Trash podcast and advice for people looking for support in unfortunate situations

Chump lady’s book literally saved my sanity 7 years ago. I’ve followed the blog all this time as well. To listen to Tracy on this podcast is just amazing! Thank you Tracy and Sarah, you are life savers!

Essential podcast for anyone regaining their life after infidelity! Listen, learn, and become mighty!

I’ve never been Chumped, but this information is so universal it’s still fascinating. Take a listen you won’t want it to end.

The show highlights individuals who have overcome three worst of betrayal. The hosts are thoughtful and witty with a keen insight. A must listen for anyone who has experienced the pain of infidelity.

What is a chump? There are many of us who have lived through the agonizing pain of infidelity— we are Chumps! Tracy Shorn has coined this phrase so effectively to empower us to move through probably the most horrific experience of our lives. She tells us that it is ok to be mad, unravel, and not to blame ourselves. Until I discovered Chump Lady, all the “advice” I read spoke about “accepting how I contributed to my husband’s infidelity.” Barf! I didn’t cause it— he did with his lousy character and self-absorption. I finally had the language to move forward and leave that loser! Kudos for this podcast!!